Conversations with a Male Friend

Conversations with a Male Friend

I get quiet.
I’m not sure how to explain to him that Muslim women have sex too.
He doesn’t believe me.
He says, “I used to think we’d end up together. But you had a child”.
I laugh.
I tell him that the prophet married Khadija even though she had children.
He says it was different then.
“I’d marry you if you were a virgin”.
I ask if that’s what he wants.

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Dy Kategori Të Grave

Dy Kategori Të Grave

Frika nga etiketimi na mban peng pothuajse gjithë jetën. Frikësohemi të flasim me zë të lartë, frikësohemi që keqkuptohemi – se ndoshta nuk “na merr” kush. Për këtë lloj të shqiptarëve, karakteri i gruas ka vetëm dy kategori: Per ata, ne nuk jemi personalitete komplekse në sy të shoqërisë tonë. Nuk jemi njerëz me mendime te ndryshme, karaktere në evoluim, personalitete që kanë vibrim konstant në lëvizje… por, jemi të thjeshta, jemi vetëm bardh e zi : të shtëpisë dhe të përdala. Për ata, të jesh femër në karrierë, me punë, që udhëton, që ulesh në tavolina me burra dhe debaton, diskuton, flet me zë të lartë si ata duke mos pasur frikë, të bën të përdalë.

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STOP SLUT SHAMING!

STOP SLUT SHAMING!

Maybe this little blurb will solve nothing. Maybe it will simply make some roll their eyes, and others mad. But if one, just one, young woman reads this and realizes that her internalized misogyny can be unlearned, that she doesn’t have to hate other women to succeed in life, then my piece has accomplished its goal. I didn’t write this to be shady. It wrote itself out of the pain and disappointment of seeing bright young women all over my social medias (and real life) tear each-other apart over ideals they were taught they should want. Maybe they didn’t even realize they were doing it, but it’s time we taught each-other than there is no bigger strength in today’s reality than the support of other women.

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The Struggle of Being Gay in Albania

The Struggle of Being Gay in Albania

"Up until the mid-90s if you were openly gay in Albania, you would be sent to prison. Many homosexuals stil face bigotry and violence, even in their own homes.

In the last five years, Albania has seen a dynamic LGBTQ movement. Gay activists have created secret guest houses in Tirana that offer shelter to young homosexuals who have been brutally abused.

VICE Greece traveled to Albania and recorded rare glimpses into the lives of people who have been victimized and neglected because of their sexual orientation in one of Europe's most homophobic countries." -VICE

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